But instead of just blaming the guy you’re dating, you can put society to blame too.
As a society, we’re still not open enough to accept the fact that a gay guy can be just as perfect a man as any other guy.
Are you afraid of expressing these feelings to your partner because he might become angry or withdraw into isolation even more?
If so, you could be in a relationship with a narcissist. In the beginning of the relationship he was charming, delightful, charismatic, attentive and complimentary.
Sometimes, a man could be in a happy marriage for several years and enjoy a great sex life before he realizes that he’s gay and likes men.
Has your man lost his passion for sex even if you try new ways to keep sex exciting?
They made a beeline for each other every morning, and their chats became more and more personal. “If they don’t, it’s easy enough to say to yourself that you’re not doing anything wrong.” The problem, she says, is the attachment to this other person impacts the marriage.
The chemistry was obvious, but nothing ever “happened.” Or did it? Gail Saltz, MD, associate professor of psychiatry at New York-Presbyterian Hospital/Weill Cornell School of Medicine, says “probably.” “Many of these emotional affairs do move into a sexual affair,” Saltz says.
You have become tense and emotionally drained from his unpredictable tantrums, personal attacks and indignation at any perceived (often misperceived) slights.
You begin to doubt yourself due to the never-ending critical comments, you worry about what he thinks, and you become as preoccupied about him as he is about himself.
Often, people who become involved in emotional affairs feel something is lacking at home.
“It makes them feel good to feel understood, to feel desired. You go home and have your vegetables, and you go to work and you have candy.” For some spouses -- more often women, Saltz says -- learning of an emotional affair can be worse than discovering sexual infidelity.